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PSYCHWEST, Clinical & Forensic Psychology / CCES
1445 Butte House Rd., Suite F
Yuba City, CA 95993


(530) 751-1122


 

 

Step #1
Payment:

If you have already made a payment you may skip this step and proceed to Step #2. You may make a payment if you have not already done so by visiting the payment center. You will be able to submit the CCES forms now at no cost to you, although you will not receive test results until payment has been received. If you wish, you may take the test now and pay later to view your test results.

Step #2
Demographic Information:
Fill out identifying information, name of both partners, a phone number and an email address to where the test results should be sent. Complete the comment section if you have any further questions or thoughts. To feel comfortable with taking the test and to ensure confidentiality and honesty it is advisable to take the test individually without showing each other's answers. Any coaxing in either direction from either partner may bias the test results.

Step #3
Partner #1:
Partner #1, you will need to answer all 400 questions. Sit down and relax. The average time to complete the test is an hour and a half. When you reach the end of the 400 questions you will see PLEASE STOP! YOU ARE NOW HALFWAY FINISHED WITH THE TEST. DO NOT CLOSE THE BROWSER. PRESS THE CONTINUE ON TO PART 2 (PARTNER 2) BUTTON TO HIDE YOUR ANSWERS. HAVE YOUR PARTNER COMPLETE THE NEXT SET OF QUESTIONS.

Step #4
Partner #2:
Partner #2 will answer the next set of 400 questions. When you reach the end of the next set of 400 questions you will see PLEASE STOP! YOU ARE NOW FINISHED WITH THE TEST. DO NOT CLOSE THE BROWSER. MAKE SURE ALL QUESTIONS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED BEFORE SUBMITTING RESULTS. PRESS THE SUBMIT TEST RESULTS BUTTON TO SEND YOUR ANSWERS TO OUR ASSESSMENT TEAM.

Step #5
Analyzing Test Data:

Your test scores will be completed within 5 working days. Please be patient so that your scores can be accurately assessed. If you haven't already purchased consultation services and would like to recieve a professional consultation over the phone regarding the test scores you will have an opportunity after submitting the form to purchase the service. It is recommended to obtain a professional to assist you in interpreting the scores. If you have any further questions or comments after submitting the form you may contact us via email.

NOTE!: YOU DO NOT HAVE TO COMPLETE THE CCES IN ONE SITTING. YOU MAY COMPLETE THE TEST OVER A NUMBER OF SESSIONS IF NEEDED. IF AT ANY TIME YOU NEED TO CLOSE DOWN THE BROWSER AND SAVE YOUR TEST RESULTS PLEASE CLICK THE SEND TEST RESULTS BUTTON AT THE END OF THIS TEST. YOU WILL NEED TO MAKE A NOTATION OF THE QUESTIONS YOU DID NOT COMPLETE, AS THE QUESTIONS WILL NOT BE SAVED ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR COFIDENTIALITY REASONS AND TO PROTECT YOUR PRIVACY. IF YOU FORGET OR ARE UNSURE OF THE QUESTIONS LEFT UNANSWERED PLEASE CONTACT US AND WE WILL BE HAPPY TO ASSIST YOU. WE HAVE THE CAPABILITY OF SENDING YOU THE THE QUESTIONS THAT STILL NEED ANSWERING. PLEASE WRITE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION THAT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER INTEND TO FINISH THE TEST AT A LATER TIME AND YOUR TEST RESULTS WILL BE SAVED IN OUR DATABASE. NOTE, YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE ABLE TO TAKE THE TEST SIMULTANIOUSLY ON DIFFERENT COMPUTERS IF YOU WISH TO SAVE TIME. IF YOU DECIDE TO TAKE THE TEST ON TWO DIFFERENT COMPUTERS THEN PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT YOU MAKE NOTE WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE PARTNER #1 OR PARTNER #2 AND BE CONSISTENT. ANY CONFUSION COULD JEAPORDIZE THE RESULTS OF YOUR TEST. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT US IF YOU HAVE ANY CONCERNS OR NEED CLARIFICATION IN TAKING THE CCES. THANK YOU AND ENJOY TAKING THE TEST
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START HERE - PARTNER # 1 SHOULD BEGIN WHILE PARTNER #2 STEPS OUT OF THE ROOM. THE WEB BROWSER SHOULD NOT BE CLOSED ANY TIME DURING TESTING.

1. When I become angry or upset I say things that I ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
2. When my partner becomes angry or upset, he/she discusses the issue in a calm, nonargumentative fashion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
3. My partner holds my hand.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
4. My partner has given me a kiss even though he/she didn't feel any passion or loving feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
5. My inability to pay close attention to my partner has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
6. My partner can tell that I listen to him/her in a loving and compassionate way
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
7. My partner's inability to understand me has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
8. I know that my partner may say or do something that is hurtful, but I realize he/she isn't doing it purposely.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
9. When my partner becomes angry or upset he/she says things that he/she ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
10. I hold in my emotions until I explode and say things I ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
11. I talk about almost anything with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
12. My partner has threatened to kill me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
13. Because I am eight feet tall I am a good listener.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
14. I use punitive words to get my point across (i.e., you are stupid).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
15. When I become angry or upset, I discuss the issue in a calm, nonargumentative fashion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
16. I try to dress nicely so that I can be attractive for my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
17. I find it difficult to be angry with my partner for a long period of time because he/she talks to me in a way that is soothing and comforting.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
18. My partner drinks or uses drugs to where it affects or interferes with our relationship in a negative way.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
19. I do not like arguments and tend to shut down and not communicate verbally.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
20. I kiss my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
21. The time my partner spends at work or with other extracurricular activities has interfered with his/her relationship with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
22. I will do anything for my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
23. My partner has positive feelings toward me. I know that he/she has these positive feelings by the way he/she physically touches me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
24. During an argument, I hold my partner's hand to let him/her know I care.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
25. There are things that I say that interfere with our relationship even though I don't mean to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
26. My partner identifies and verbalizes his/her feelings to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
27. My partner touches me in a loving manner (sexually).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
28. I have many ways of showing my love to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
29. When I don't want to listen to my partner any more, I become frustrated and leave the house for a couple of hours, days or more.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
30. I pay attention to my partner's needs because I care.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
31. I do not pay attention to what my partner is feeling.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
32. My partner correctly reads my body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
33. I think my partner means to harm me at times, but at a deeper level, I know that is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
34. I give my partner space when he/she needs it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
35. My partner has trouble verbalizing his/her thoughts.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
36. I accurately and clearly tell my partner my needs.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
37. I kiss my partner in a passionate way.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
38. My partner likes to touch me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
39. When my partner doesn't understand my thought or point of view, he/she asks for clarification or an example.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
40. I talk to my partner in another language that I learned from Mars.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
41. My partner has called me a "bitch," "bastard" or other similar offensive name.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
42. When I become angry or sad, I talk to my partner in a non-threatening manner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
43. My partner pays attention to my body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
44. I am nervous around my partner for no apparent reason.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
45. My partner makes me cry or feel bad by the way he/she says things.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
46. Even though I do nothing all that wrong, my partner still feels annoyed with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
47. I don't always pay attention, but I try and mean well.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
48. My partner's loving tone of voice allows me to feel relaxed so that I feel like I can tell him/her almost anything.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
49. I have a sense of humor when I speak to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
50. I pay attention and am aware of my partner's mood changes.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
51. I refrain from outside distractions (i.e., TV, radio, other) when talking about an important topic with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
52. I misinterpret the meaning behind my partner's actions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
53. My partner understands my point of view.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
54. My partner can tell that I am feeling sad by the tone of my voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
55. I talk about my life with my partner. He/She is aware of my daily activities.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
56. When my partner is angry or hurt, he/she will yell and scream to where it is frightful to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
57. I make my partner cry or feel bad by the way I say things.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
58. My inability to understand my partner's feelings has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
59. I do not understand why my partner is annoyed, hurt or angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
60. I have threatened to kill my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
61. My partner likes to talk to me because of the joy he/she feels when he/she speaks to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
62. I have raised my hand to hit my partner, but have never followed through.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
63. My partner has negative feelings towards me which he/she shows by ignoring me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
64. I think my partner is angry or hurt, but he/she tells me that it is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
65. I verbally express appreciation for my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
66. I talk to my partner in a way that is kind.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
67. I hold my partner's hand.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
68. I have had an affair.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
69. My partner picks or buys flowers for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
70. I do not pay attention to my partner's feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
71. I understand my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
72. I am not good at interpreting my partner's exact emotions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
73. I think everyone in the entire world including my partner is out to harm or make fun of me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
74. When in an argument with me, my partner can't seem to lower his/her tone of voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
75. My loving tone of voice allows my partner to feel relaxed so that he/she feels like he/she can tell me almost anything.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
76. I have hit my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
77. When I am angry, I have sex with my partner in a violent manner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
78. I smile at my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
79. My partner loves listening to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
80. I feel annoyed with my partner, even though he/she does not do anything all that wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
81. My partner doesn't care if I am hurt or not.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
82. When I get mad, I tell my partner to "go to hell" or other such similar phrase.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
83. I say negative things about my partner's family or friends that are hurtful to him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
84. My partner has threatened to leave the marriage or relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
85. I have trouble telling my partner my feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
86. My partner has told me that he/she loved me, but inside I knew that he/she really was not feeling that emotion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
87. When my partner is in an argument with me, he/she raises his/her voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
88. When my partner tries to verbally communicate his/her loving feelings to me, I don't feel like he/she is saying the words with passion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
89. I show signs of appreciation for my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
90. When I am hurt, I feel like my partner's loving energy draws me in close to him/her and I feel safe.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
91. When my partner doesn't agree with what I have to say, I don't feel supported.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
92. I know my partner means well. I don't take what he/she says to heart when he/she says or does something wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
93. My partner is correct in identifying my feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
94. I have threatened to hit my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
95. The words that I use to communicate to my partner hurt him/her even though I don't mean it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
96. My partner is not a good listener.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
97. My partner knows when I am hurt. He/She listens with all of his/her heart.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
98. Sometimes I think my partner does not love me. I know that I am being silly and it is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
99. I like to swing my partner by his/her feet.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
100. When I am angry or hurt, I yell and scream to where it is frightful to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
101. I use sarcastic words just to prove a point.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
102. During an argument my partner says things sarcastically.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
103. My partner does not understand why I am annoyed, hurt or angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
104. I don't know what to make of my partner's feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
105. I get hurt easily because I take things literally.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
106. I think I understand the meaning behind my partner's behavior, but I am often wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
107. I have called my partner a "bitch," "bastard" or other such similar offensive name.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
108. I am a good listener because I can pick up on what my partner is trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
109. When I become angry or hurt I walk away and go into another room or leave the house.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
110. My partner has good feelings just being next to me. We don't even have to be doing anything interactive.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
111. I have pushed my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
112. My partner does not have strong feelings of love when we have sex.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
113. My partner tries to pay attention to what I am trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
114. I hate listening to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
115. I interpret my partner's emotions accurately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
116. I can tell that my partner is feeling sad by the tone of his/her voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
117. I think my partner and his/her friends are FBI agents and are out to get me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
118. I tell the truth and do not lie to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
119. When my partner talks to me, he/she uses a sarcastic tone of voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
120. My partner finds it difficult to be angry with me for a long period of time because I talk to him/her in a way that is soothing and comforting.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
121. I have a nonthreatening voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
122. Because he/she cares, my partner touches me so that I know that he/she is paying full attention to what I am saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
123. There are things that I do that interfere with our relationship even though I don't mean to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
124. My partner tries hard to do the right thing.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
125. My partner thinks I mean to harm him/her at times, but at a deeper level, he/she knows that is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
126. My partner doesn't know what to make of my behavior.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
127. When my partner is around me, he/she has an irritated look on his/her face.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
128. My partner will do anything for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
129. I throw objects as a way of showing my anger.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
130. I have conversations with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
131. My partner accurately and clearly tells me his/her needs.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
132. My partner thinks I am angry or hurt, but I tell him/her that it is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
133. When my partner is hurt, he/she feels like my loving energy draws him/her in close to me and he/she feels safe.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
134. When my partner is distraught over something, I am there to comfort and hold him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
135. My partner holds in his/her emotions until he/she explodes and says things he/she ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
136. I have trouble telling my partner what I am feeling without using words that are hurtful or cruel.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
137. My partner tells me that he/she loves me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
138. When I don't understand my partner's thought or point of view, I ask for clarification or an example.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
139. I have been hospitalized before because of my partner's physical abuse towards me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
140. My partner does things that he/she ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
141. There are things I do even though I know my partner does not like it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
142. My partner becomes frustrated with me and does things that are not nice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
143. I plan activities for my partner and me so that we can have fun together.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
144. I articulate my needs clearly and accurately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
145. My partner uses sarcastic words just to prove a point.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
146. My partner tells me that I am beautiful or handsome.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
147. I have a bizarre way of looking at the world.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
148. My partner knows that I hate him/her. He/She can tell by my actions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
149. I have given my partner a kiss even though I didn't feel any passion or loving feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
150. I find it hard to be with my partner in an argument because he/she gets so angry or frustrated. I can tell by his/her body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
151. I have fun doing activities with my partner (i.e., hiking, swimming, watching a movie).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
152. My partner uses good eye contact when I tell him/her something.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
153. I always misinterpret my partner's feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
154. When my partner gets mad, he/she tells me to "go to hell" or any other similar phrase.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
155. I have called the police on my partner for physical domestic violence.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
156. I am affectionate.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
157. My partner is attentive when an important and sensitive issue needs to be
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
158. When in an argument, my partner correctly confirms what I have said.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
159. When I become angry I am still able to say words that are not harmful.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
160. When my partner has something he/she needs to say, he/she says it freely.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
161. My partner nods his/her head or gives a verbal reassurance (uh-huh) to show me that he/she is paying attention.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
162. When my partner holds my hand, I know that he/she loves me by the warmth that is conveyed.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
163. The softness of my voice when I speak lets my partner know that I care for him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
164. My partner has a sense of humor when he/she speaks to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
165. I get bored with what my partner is trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
166. I have used weapons during an argument with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
167. I love to touch my partner in affectionate and loving ways.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
168. My partner kisses me in a passionate way.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
169. I touch my partner in a loving manner (nonsexual).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
170. When my partner doesn't want to listen to me any more, he/she becomes frustrated and leaves the house for a couple of hours, days or more.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
171. My partner finds it hard to listen to me in an argument because I get so angry or frustrated. He/She can tell by the tone of my voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
172. I cannot make sense of anything my partner says.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
173. When I communicate to my partner verbally, I don't feel like I am saying the words with sincerity.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
174. If my partner is not sure what I am trying to say, he/she becomes frustrated.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
175. It is difficult for me to pay attention to my partner for a long time.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
176. I am aware and attend to my partner's mood changes and try to console him/her by being there for him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
177. My partner knows that I may say or do something that is hurtful, but he/she realizes that I am not doing it purposely.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
178. My partner is not good at interpreting my exact emotions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
179. I say things in an angry tone of voice, even though I know I shouldn't be so angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
180. There are things that my partner says that interferes with our relationship even though he/she doesn't mean to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
181. I have threatened to leave the marriage or relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
182. My partner tells me things that will enhance my self-esteem.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
183. When my partner gives me flowers or a special gift, I am filled with love and joy.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
184. My partner likes to smile at me because he/she knows it makes me feel good.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
185. When I am talking and the television is on, my partner attends to the television rather than to what I am saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
186. My partner doesn't care what I do with my life.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
187. I listen to what my partner has to say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
188. My partner talks to me in a way that is kind.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
189. I try to pay attention to what my partner is trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
190. My partner refrains from outside distractions (i.e., TV, radio, other) when talking about an important topic with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
191. When I am angry, I can't hear a word my partner is saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
192. When I am angry and cannot talk calmly I will recommend that the issue be dealt with after I have calmed down.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
193. Even when my partner says the right things, he/she says it in a way that is not sincere.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
194. Sometimes my partner thinks I do not love him/her. He/She knows he/she is being silly and it is not true.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
195. My partner always misinterprets my feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
196. I have good quality time talking about my day with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
197. I find it hard to listen to what my partner has to say in an argument because he/she gets so angry or frustrated. I can tell by the tone of his/her voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
198. My partner has threatened to hit me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
199. I listen to my partner full heartedly.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
200. My partner has the capacity to pay attention to my feelings even when I am angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
201. My partner likes to go out with me on special occasions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
202. My partner knows I mean well, but for some reason he/she still becomes hurt.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
203. Even though my partner may disagree with what I am saying, he/she is still able to listen without interrupting.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
204. I know that my partner is available and that I can tell him/her anything.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
205. My partner does not pay attention to what I am feeling.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
206. My partner finds it hard to listen to me when he/she is angry. He/She focuses on his/her own feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
207. I groom myself appropriately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
208. When I am around my partner, I have an irritated look on my face.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
209. I pay attention to my partner's body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
210. My partner loves talking to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
211. I do not like to argue and will not talk to my partner during a disagreement.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
212. There are things that my partner does that interferes with our relationship even though he/she doesn't mean to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
213. My partner tries to dress nicely so that he/she can be attractive for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
214. My partner is observant and knows when I am feeling good and bad.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
215. When my partner is angry, he/she has sex with me in a violent manner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
216. I do not have strong feelings of love when my partner and I have sex.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
217. I have tried to harm myself.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
218. When my partner becomes angry or upset, he/she holds it in until he/she explodes.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
219. My partner grooms him/herself appropriately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
220. I am genuinely interested in what my partner has to say or do.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
221. My partner gives me space when I need it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
222. My partner hugs me, but it doesn't mean much to him/her since he/she is so hurt by me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
223. I try hard to do the right thing.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
224. My partner's inability to pay close attention to me has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
225. When in an argument, I correctly confirm what my partner has said.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
226. My partner is actively and genuinely open to hear new ideas from me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
227. I give feedback to my partner on what he/she has said.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
228. My partner has thought about injuring me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
229. I know exactly what my partner means when he/she is trying to make an important point.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
230. I have trouble talking about my daily events with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
231. My partner doesn't always pay attention, but he/she tries and means well.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
232. I drink or use drugs to where it affects or interferes with our relationship in a negative way.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
233. My partner smiles at me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
234. My partner goes the extra mile for me and does things for me that he/she doesn't ordinarily do.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
235. My partner pays close attention to my needs.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
236. My partner uses touch to communicate his/her affectionate feelings towards me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
237. I am correct in identifying my partner's feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
238. I give hugs and hold my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
239. I have positive feelings such as happiness, contentment and love towards my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
240. My partner interrupts what I am saying during an argument so that he/she can get his/her point of view across.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
241. My partner is a good listener because he/she observes my body language as well as listens to what I say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
242. My partner makes me laugh or feel good by the things that he/she says.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
243. When upset with my partner, I try to pretend that everything is O.K., but it is easy to see that I am hurt by the sound of my voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
244. My partner gives constructive feedback to me because he/she cares.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
245. My lack of sympathy in wanting to listen or pay attention to my partner has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
246. My partner has a bizarre way of looking at the world.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
247. Even though I have done something quite harmless, my partner becomes angry with me and says things that he/she shouldn't.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
248. If I am not sure what my partner is trying to say, I become frustrated.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
249. My partner knows I mean well. He/She doesn't take what I say to heart when I say or do something wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
250. I like to touch my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
251. My partner has had an affair.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
252. I pick or buy flowers for my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
253. I enjoy being close to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
254. My partner has negative feelings such as sadness, anger or frustration towards me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
255. When I talk to my partner, I use a sarcastic tone of voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
256. I like to hear what my partner has to say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
257. I am better than my partner because I have special powers.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
258. When my partner speaks to me, I give him/her my full attention.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
259. My partner knows that I am available and that he/she can tell me anything.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
260. My partner attends to what I say verbally and to my body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
261. I touch my partner in a loving manner (sexually).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
262. I like to smile at my partner because I know it makes him/her feel good.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
263. When I don't agree with what my partner has to say, he/she doesn't feel supported.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
264. My partner is nervous around me for no apparent reason.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
265. My partner misinterprets the meaning behind my actions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
266. My partner throws objects as a way of showing his/her anger.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
267. There are things that my partner does even though I do not like it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
268. I love listening to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
269. My partner understands me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
270. My partner gives me passionate kisses.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
271. I have negative feelings towards my partner which I show by ignoring him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
272. My inability to understand my partner has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
273. My partner gets hurt easily because he/she takes things literally.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
274. My partner is a good listener because he/she can pick up on what I am trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
275. I don't care if my partner is hurt or not.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
276. The time that I spend at work or with other extracurricular activities has interfered with my relationship with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
277. My partner writes special notes, letters or gives cards to show his/her love.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
278. My partner has raised his/her hand to hit me, but has never followed through.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
279. My partner uses punitive words to get his/her point across (i.e., you are stupid).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
280. My partner cannot make sense of anything I say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
281. My partner loves to touch me in affectionate and loving ways.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
282. During an argument, my partner holds my hand to let me know he/she cares.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
283. When my partner is angry, he/she can't hear a word that I am saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
284. I know that my partner hates me. I can tell by his/her actions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
285. My partner has been hospitalized before because of my physical abuse toward him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
286. I do things that I ought not to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
287. My partner kisses me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
288. I go the extra mile for my partner and do things for him/her that I don't ordinarily do.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
289. My partner hates listening to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
290. It doesn't bother my partner when I am feeling sad.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
291. My partner is aware and attends to my mood changes and tries to console me by being there for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
292. I am attentive when an important and sensitive issue needs to be discussed with my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
293. My partner talks about almost anything with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
294. My partner has trouble telling me what he/she is feeling without using words that are hurtful or cruel.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
295. My partner pays attention and is aware of my mood changes.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
296. My partner has fun doing activities with me (i.e., hiking, swimming, watching a movie).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
297. I tell my partner that I love him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
298. My partner has good quality time talking about his/her day with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
299. I nod my head or give a verbal reassurance (uh-huh) to show my partner that I am paying attention.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
300. When I speak to my partner, he/she gives me his/her full attention.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
301. My partner is genuinely interested in what I say or do.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
302. The words that my partner uses to communicate to me hurts even though he/she doesn't mean it.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
303. My partner has pushed me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
304. I am not a good listener.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
305. I tell my partner that he/she is beautiful or handsome.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
306. My partner talks about his/her life with me. I am aware of his/her daily activities.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
307. My partner articulates his/her needs clearly and accurately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
308. My partner verbally expresses appreciation for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
309. My partner has trouble telling me his/her feelings.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
310. I am observant and know when my partner is feeling good and bad.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
311. When I have something that I need to tell my partner, I say it freely.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
312. I am a good listener because I observe my partner's body language as well as listen to what he/she says.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
313. My partner says negative things about my family or friends that are hurtful to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
314. My partner shows signs of appreciation for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
315. The things that I do interfere with our relationship, even though I don't mean them to.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
316. When I hold my partner's hand, he/she knows that I love him/her by the warmth that is conveyed.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
317. I love talking to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
318. Even though my partner has done something quite harmless, I become angry with him/her and say things that I shouldn't.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
319. When my partner becomes angry or sad, he/she talks to me in a non- threatening manner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
320. I have told my partner that I loved him/her, but inside I knew that I was not really feeling that emotion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
321. My partner says things in an angry tone of voice, even though he/she knows he/she shouldn't be so angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
322. My partner gets bored with what I am trying to convey.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
323. My partner does not like to argue and tends to shut down and not communicate verbally.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
324. My partner has called the police on me for physical domestic violence.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
325. My partner has tried to harm him/herself.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
326. When I become angry or upset, I hold it in until I explode.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
327. I have negative feelings such as sadness, anger or frustration towards my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
328. I have positive feelings toward my partner. He/She knows that I have these positive feelings by the way I physically touch him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
329. I use touch to communicate my affectionate feelings towards my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
330. My partner does not pay attention to what I am feeling.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
331. I become frustrated with my partner and do things that are not nice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
332. My partner tells the truth and does not lie to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
333. When my partner becomes angry or hurt he/she walks away and goes into another room or leaves the house.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
334. I know when my partner is hurt. I listen to him/her with all of my heart.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
335. Because I care, I touch my partner so that he/she knows that I am paying full attention to what he/she is saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
336. I correctly read my partner's body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
337. I don't know what to make of my partner's behavior.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
338. My partner has used weapons during an argument with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
339. I like to go out with my partner on special occasions.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
340. My partner finds it hard to be with me in an argument because I get so angry or frustrated. He/She can tell by my body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
341. When I try to verbally communicate my loving feelings to my partner, I don't feel like I am saying the words with passion.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
342. My partner has trouble talking about his/her daily events with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
343. When my partner is angry and cannot talk calmly he/she will recommend that the issue be dealt with after he/she has calmed down.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
344. My partner's inability to understand my feelings has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
345. When upset with me, my partner tries to pretend that everything is O.K., but it is easy to see that he/she is hurt by the sound of his/her voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
346. I like to talk to my partner because of the joy I feel when I speak to him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
347. When in an argument with my partner, I can't seem to lower my tone of voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
348. My partner has hit me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
349. My partner knows exactly what I mean when I am trying to make an important point.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
350. My partner's lack of sympathy in wanting to listen or pay attention to me has interfered with our relationship.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
351. When I am distraught over something, my partner is there to comfort and hold me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
352. I write special notes, letters or give cards to show my love.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
353. I tell my partner things that will enhance his/her self-esteem.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
354. My partner gives hugs and holds me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
355. My partner enjoys being close to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
356. I give constructive feedback to my partner because I care.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
357. My partner pays attention to my needs because he/she cares.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
358. I understand my partner's point of view.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
359. My partner thinks he/she understands the meaning behind my behavior, but he/she is often wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
360. I interrupt what my partner is saying during an argument so that I can get my point of view across.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
361. I have thought about injuring my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
362. When my partner becomes angry he/she is still able to say words that are not harmful.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
363. I pay attention to my partner's needs.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
364. I feel that my partner listens to me full heartedly.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
365. I find it hard to listen to my partner when I am angry. I focus on my own
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
366. My partner has positive feelings such as happiness, contentment and love towards me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
367. I have trouble verbalizing my thoughts.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
368. I identify and verbalize my feelings to my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
369. I am actively and genuinely open to hear new ideas from my partner.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
370. It doesn't bother me when my partner is feeling sad.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
371. Even though I may disagree with what my partner is saying, I am still able to listen without interrupting.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
372. My partner has a nonthreatening voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
373. I have good feelings just being next to my partner. We don't even have to be doing anything interactive.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
374. My partner is affectionate.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
375. My partner touches me in a loving manner (nonsexual).
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
376. My partner doesn't know what to make of my behavior.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
377. I know my partner means well, but for some reason I still become hurt.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
378. My partner has conversations with me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
379. I make my partner laugh or feel good by the things that I say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
380. The softness of my partner's voice lets me know that he/she cares for me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
381. I can tell that my partner listens to me in a loving and compassionate way.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
382. I attend to what my partner says verbally and to his/her body language.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
383. My partner likes to hear what I have to say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
384. I have the capacity to pay attention to my partner's feelings even when he/she is angry.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
385. During an argument I say things sarcastically.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
386. When I am in an argument with my partner, I raise my voice.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
387. My partner is annoyed with me, even though I do not do anything all that wrong.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
388. My partner interprets my emotions accurately.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
389. Even when I say the right things, I say it in a way that is not sincere.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
390. I use good eye contact when my partner tells me something.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
391. When my partner is talking and the television is on, I attend to the television rather than to what my partner is saying.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
392. It is difficult for my partner to pay attention to me for a long time.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
393. I hug my partner, but it doesn't mean much to me since I am so hurt by him/her.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
394. My partner plans activities for us so that we can have fun together.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
395. My partner has many ways of showing his/her love to me.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
396. My partner listens to what I have to say.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
397. I don't care what my partner does with his/her life.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
398. My partner gives feedback to me on what I have said.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
399. When my partner communicates to me verbally, I don't feel like he/she is saying the words with sincerity.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
400. When I give flowers or a special gift to my partner, he/she is filled with love and joy.
AlmostNever/I Disagree Infrequently/ Slightly Disagree Regularly/Agree Frequently/Strongly Agree Almost Always/Most Definately Agree
 
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